Welcome to the New Year, and the start of another decade.
Congratulations on making it this far!
That is not sarcasm, by the way, I'm sure there were time during 2019 when you wanted to give up (I know I did!) but you pushed through and made it to 2020. I'm proud of you!
And, if you're like most of the population, you've already resolved to turn over a new leaf, ditch some bad habits and are already full-steam ahead on the 'New Year, New Me' train that everyone wants to catch.
Chances are, you've caught this train before...
Every year, in fact.
And I bet, for many of you, it's broken down somewhere around the February stop.
That's the problem with the myth of 'New Year's Resolutions': they're not designed to stick. They're a function of a 'get results quick!' society and the industries that benefit from that. It's a vicious cycle that many of us jump onto every single year: set a resolution, go well for a couple of weeks, slip off, struggle to get back on, fail, flog ourselves, then do it all over again the next time the calendar rolls around to Jan 1.
I get it.
I've been there before too.
And something I learned from being there was the a New Year's resolution is worthless, but if you take that 'resolution' and turn it into a 'goal' and plan concrete, action steps towards it, then it becomes something achievable.
For the last five years, I have been setting 'New Year's Goals' and have been achieving them at a success rate about about 75 - 80%. Much of this has come from my time training at Evolving Physiques. Every year, they offer a start of year goal setting session for their members, and I was lucky enough to have mine on Jan 1, which saw some really positive progress and concrete steps planned.
I have six major goals for 2020, and they are as follows:
For each of these goals I have outlined between 3 - 4 action steps to be taken that will help me meet these goals, and also identified what stands in my way of achieving them. The two biggest barriers to me achieving these goals are a lack of accountability and lack of planning, so it was great to sit down with someone and work out how I could go around this.
As far as accountability goes, I am using my blog, my Instagram and my Facebook page as accountability tools; each day I'm posting a photo of my morning meditation, and sharing my progress on my splits at least weekly. I will also be posting a 'Weekly Review' here. Whether or not anyone reads it, I don't much care, but putting something down in writing always makes it feel more tangible. Hilal has also jumped on board as something of an accountability partner, and she likes to check in and see how my progress is going and if I'm moving in the right direction. Now, with my motivation high, I haven't had any trouble, but as the year goes on, knowing there is someone watching will make it easier to stay on track, even when it gets hard.
For planning, I have started creating a seven-day planner and updating it weekly on Wednesday. I have an RDO each Wednesday, so it made sense to start my week then, when I have time to sit down and review my progress and plan ahead. It's just a list of the major events I have upcoming for the week, but with each tick I feel a little surge of pride: I did it! It's also a way of being accountable to myself, and knowing ahead what I'm doing each week takes away from of the mental load.
The final thing I have done for myself is create three trackers: Mood, Activity and Meditation. This is another form of accountability for myself, as I find that using apps to be accountable makes it very easy to cheat, but this way I have the manually record not only if I did something, but what type of 'something' I did. I'm also of the opinion that these are going to help my pick up patterns in how my mood affects my activity and vice versa, and if different types of meditation tend to give me a better or worse day. I've also started tracking my spending lately, so these will also give me a guide of how I'm feeling on days when I look back and realise I've spent big.
So, 2020 is already off to a great start for me, and I'd encourage you to get the fuck off that 'New Year's Resolution' Train and jump on the 'Goals With Concrete Steps' Train, which is a far superior engine than the former. Sit down with someone you know and trust and thrash out some goals, be realistic, make it personal, and find a way to be accountable. If you start off right, you can only learn more as you grow.
You don't have to like me. I'm not a Facebook post.
Me With No Apologies.